Are all changes good?

In life we have some great changes and some not so great changes.
But from a writer’s view point ALL changes are good.
Why you might wonder? Is this blogger insane?
Why, to write we need to experience all manner of feelings, be it from reading, watching or being in the thick of things.

To stay in the same state of mind will not help one to be a good or even great writer.
Each day we are faced with new changes, nothing ever stays the same for long.
As writers we need to look at this, question how we feel about it, see how others feel about it and then file it away in our minds for future use.
We may get a plot idea, begin work on it and then find out that things just are not gelling together.
Rather than throwing it away, put it to one side and work on something else.
Time will pass by; you will change and then will come an idea. This idea will help you get over whatever hump, bump or pimple that stood in your way on the last attempt.

Rather than hating changes, it can help you as a writer to accept them.  Not asking you to love them but just do not kick and scream when change approaches.
Big mile stones are easy to advance towards, finding a partner being one of them.
Being single, we are very different then when paired with another human. 
Single we have the freedom of choice in all matters of our lives.
Yes, I can have purple shower curtains with red bath towels and not care if they clash.
I can eat junk food for dinner, let the dog sleep on the sofa or even not brush my teeth before noon.
Now enters the partner, we consider their needs, their likes and their health.
Out goes the badly chewed by the dog sofa and purple shower curtain.

If you can remember what it felt like to be single, then writing about characters that are single will come easy. If you have lived with another person -room mate, lover, husband, wife, child- then you can share that knowledge in your writing also.
To forget is to disable you, to hide is to hamper.
If you have triumphed over a difficult change in your life then share that with your readers, show you know your stuff.
The worst thing a write can do is to hide behind a mask and hold back what they have learned from what life’s changes at thrown at them.

SO remember next time that idiot cuts you off in traffic, CHANGE your view of them, use what you are feeling as a template for a time your characters might be put in a similar situation and see how they would react.
I recently had someone comment “What did you live under a rock?” because I was unaware of some TV star. Rather than get offended I then begun to think what it would be like to live in a rock in various climates, now wouldn’t that be a rather strange change.

And yes I am rather insane, but I am a writer, one day I will be labeled eccentric.